P is for Passion
What blows your skirt up? What really gets your engine revving? What is it in your life that you feel totally passionate about? Discover your passion and infuse it into your life. Live a passionate life. One of my passions is riding a motorbike fast and trying to keep up with my partner on his bike. It is so Zen. Nothing else to focus on except every moment you have to be 100% focused on what you are doing on the bike…
What is your passion sexually? What really turns you on? Maybe it is still waiting to be discovered? Follow your heart, follow your passion and be the sexual adventurers that you are!
P could also be for Pee! Yes, pee!!!! For some people being peed on is their passion! Even photos of people peeing can turn some people on! Ever tried it? It’s actually a really cool (or rather warm) feeling of having hot pee running down your butt crack. Or peeing on someone… it’s fun, because it is so tabu! Usually I like to do it in the shower or a bathtub. Even peeing on someone outside can be very erotic. That way you know you aren’t going to make a mess! Or can easily hose it down… Some people even like to drink pee! Believe it or not there is a school of thought that if you drink your lover’s pee then you become naturally immune to any type of dis-ease or sexually transmitted infection they may have.
P could also be for PhD, which is what I have. A PhD in Philosophy, specializing in Human Sexuality.
Or P could be for Penis! With a PhD in Sexology and many, many years in the swing scene and working in the sex field, I have a LOT of experience in Penis Play!!!
I remember one time a famous porn star came round to one of our parties. His cock was ginormous! I asked him, what was the most important thing for him when getting a blow job. What made him hard? He said, if the girl makes out that she really LOVES his cock then that is a big turn on. He said, imagine it is a super yummy dicksickle! Love it, slurp it, lick it, smell it, devour it. And make appreciative noises! Like I mentioned in C for Cunnilingus. Give positive feedback when you are going down on someone. And vice versa. If you are receiving, give appreciative oral feedback to the one giving to you.
And vary it up! Keep trying different techniques until you find one that works. Some guys like their penis grabbed hard at the base, others don’t like any hands at all. Some like it soft and gentle, some like it hard and rough. Some like their balls played with at the same time, some don’t. And believe it or not, most guys like their ass played with while receiving oral.
Some like a steady rhythm while others like variety. Still some like just the head to be teased and played with while others like deep throat. As varied as women are in how they like their oral pleasuring, so are guys. Penis play is fun!
Some guys like lots of lube, others hate any lube at all! Some like a hand job, others can’t come orally or with a hand job. Still others can only orgasm if they stroke themselves off. That’s how they come and they can’t come any other way!
Some cocks are circumcised and some aren’t. I know some girls who don’t like playing with uncircumcised cocks because they feel they are “dirty” so make sure you wash well before any playtime if you are uncircumcised and perhaps play with yourself a bit beforehand to bring that head out of it’s protective covering so that it’s easier for the girl, especially if she is not used to uncircumcised.
Personally I find the head of an uncircumcised cock much softer and more sensitive than uncircumcised ones.
Some penises are straight, some bend to the left, some to the right, some bend upwards and some downwards! So each one will feel different inside too.
Have fun exploring how different penises can pleasure you. What works with one may not work with another.
I see it as a challenge! A challenge that sometimes I have success with and at other times not!
They have a mind of their own, as they say. Sometimes whatever you try doesn’t work because the person is in a different head space and it is basically impossible to get them out of their big head and into their little head.
Don’t give yourself a hard time if you can’t get your partner/date to orgasm. Some guys only orgasm if they are inside. Others only from oral, or a hand job. And others need to get themselves off.
Some guys love the swing scene and multiple lovers at the same time, others get overwhelmed when there is more than one person and can’t focus. The swing scene isn’t necessarily for everyone! If it really isn’t for you then try some other things like using toys, doing different role-plays, exploring fetishes, making love in different places… whatever it takes to keep love alive, the experience fun, and sex satisfying.
P could also be for Porn… Pleasuring, Playfulness, Penetration, Prostate Play, Purpose and so many other things… But definitely focus on putting Passion back into your life and creating a more Passion!
Next is Q for Quality…