Soft Swap.... isn't it a bit like Vodka/Tonic without the Vodka? A cake without the cream?
We can understand the fun between the girls, and the turn on of foreplay, but why order a Fillet Steak to only eat the veg?
What are your thoughts?
In fact, everyone should decide what he wants, but our opinion is, that swinging is full swap only. Same like single persons. They are no swingers, as they are not able to share someone. They are welcome to take part in some games or to complete a group of "players". Soft swap is from the basis sex with a handbrake. I am sure, that ever one part of them would like to swap.......
We prefer full swap, its ok to have soft swap if its first time for a couple, just to introduce them softly to this lifestyle. But generally full swap is a must Sometimes a cake is good without the cream, depends on the cake
I disagree...to everyone his own as long as the couples that agree to meet know what each other's expectations are. Some couples prefer to take it slowly others take the plunge in the deep. As long as there is mutual respect and understanding it doesn't matter if its soft or full swap. At the end some people take a 200g steak others go for the Fiorentina rare.
Some people go to the supermarket to buy milk and some other to buy whiskey. Nothing wrong with either....
We hope we weren't misunderstood. We never intended that our post would be in any way negative towards soft swingers.... totally agreed that to each his own, carpe diem, etc... We're trying to open a discussion as to what might be the reasons why soft stop couples create such limits.
As noobs here, we're very interested in this topic, and have been asking this very question to some of the extremely charming couples we've met. One interesting response was that after 20-opdd years of swinging, one couple was asked to soft-swap, and although the guy in question didn't appreciate it much, he DID find it enormously kinky! I hadn't thought of it like that before (and we've never done soft-swap) but imagine it must have very strong exhibitionist overtones, perhaps like being on a film set, making sure that whatever you do, it can be easily seen by all. Not sure if I've got the concentration to do that
It would be nice if some conformed soft-swappers could comment on what they get out of the experience. Is there much "communication across the void"? Talking to various couples, there are still a LOT of first-timers on this site (although not in Malta, you horny people ) and I'm sure we'd benefit from your expertise!
That's a very interesting point alfieandpolly. Could it be that soft swap couples actually have more self control than full swap ones ?
It took 4 or 5 visits to Abfabs before the combination of being ready and the right couple etc. Had enjoyed soft swap until then, but the full swap was an amazing thing to share and talk about / relive later. Have had lovely parties with no penetration and also great times with penetration. As long as the chemistry is right and you and your partner are comfortable then all is good xx
We agree with four except I like stella and marie likes vodka and coke and lots of hot sexy erotic fun after you only live once enjoy while you can xxxx
Alright, this is definitely going to be from "outside" the box from every direction everyone has responded with.
Why can't this be for the "full swap" couples? What if a couple has a D/s relationship and permission has been granted to enjoy another couple, what if this D/s couple has agreed that stimulation is allowed but penetration, release, etc. isn't. Knowing there are couples out there that limit themselves in such a fashion would make it easier to know who won't allow a D/s to be disobedient or encourage leniency.
Hère in France, the differences are seen as just landmarks on the road to vice! ... If you get into the lifestyle as a couple, you'll start with soft stuff, moving then further up the scale till full swap... You start as voyeur, move on as cote à cotiste (having intercourse next to another couple doing it as well), then start girls' soft stuff, than soft swap and finally full swap... It makes sense, and everyone travels at its own speed along this winding road