We are. Ew to all this and wife wants it - but when it comes to crunch she hits panic button and says stop
The issue she has is seeing me with another woman.
Any other recent newbies like to offer their 1st time experience
You have to set bouderies and stick to them for the first experience. Your wife needs to be the one in control, and everything at her pace. We did this and I ( the wife ) soon realised that the jelousy and insecurity that I thought may raise it's ugly head, did not happen at all. After the first time re evaluate the bounderies, discuss what you both enjoyed and what you didn't. Before long she will feel she can trust 100% that you are both there for each other and only then will she allow more to happen ( she is still in control ). Women are insecure creatures and the thought that our partners will find a different woman more sexy, give better head, have firmer tits etc is the big hurdle for us to get over, and once over it your wife will have the time of her life !!. PS Never push her limits.
Try not to hurry her. Be aware that there are times when she may be keen to experiment...and others, when she is nervous and insecure. Her confidence will grow and your playmates will be patient...they may be feeling their way, too.